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This is a journal of our lives with my mom, affectionately known as Little Mama. In her 90's, she is a sweet, spunky, spirited, sometimes exasperating, tiny little lady that now lives with moderate dementia and macular degeneration. These journal entries show the good times and the not-so-good times.

Little Mama's type of dementia is age-related and is not hereditary. Sometimes, she appears to be perfectly normal. Other times, it is obvious that something is amiss. It is her desire to remain in our home rather than live out her days in an assisted living facility. It is my prayer that we will be able to honor her in this way. We feel blessed...and challenged...that she lives in our home. This is not easy, and important things rarely are easy. It takes an emotional and physical toll on the caregivers. I've been through the 7 stages of grief at least once if not more! If you are in a similar situation, you understand what I mean! Fortunately, our family helps a lot both physically and emotionally. It takes a team.

The fourth commandment tells us to honor our parents. That is done in many different ways. If you are struggling with a decision, please pray and ask for guidance and wisdom. Our Lord will let you know how He wants you to honor them. Regardless of the way you honor your loved ones, you will need support. So build your team, whether it is from members of your family or a support group.

I am finally learning that: I can't fix it. I can't change it. All I can do is accept it, trust God, and roll with it. (My condensed version of the Serenity Prayer.) We are learning to relax, laugh, and savor every moment we have with my mom on this side of Heaven.

So, scroll down.... read the entries...laugh and cry with us.

Blessings!
Lisa

















Tuesday, April 16, 2013

A little info to catch up!



This is the second time that she has lived with us, the first being a period of 6 years.  As you will read in previous posts, she chose to move to a facility in 2010. For several months, she lived on the “independent” side.  Then, in August 2011, she fell and struck her head on the railing, requiring 10 stitches and sustaining a nasty concussion.  Her dementia was already beginning to progress; however, this significantly affected cognition.  We were relieved to learn that there was one apartment available in the Memory Care portion of the facility, and we quickly signed on the dotted line.

Unfortunately, my mom did not do well in the Memory Care unit.  From August 2011 until January 9, 2012, my little mama lost from 96 pounds down to 84 pounds.  On January 9th, she fell again.  Fortunately, she wasn’t injured; however, she was very weak per the Memory Care director and required medical attention.  When I took her to the doctor in the afternoon, I learned the source of her weakness.  Dehydration.  Her diastolic pressure, normal being 80, was 44.  This was after she had had a meal (where I spoon fed her) and hydration.  Until then, I had assumed that her decline was due to the dementia.  It was heartbreaking to watch; but I thought it was just something that we had to endure.  My little mama has been with us since January 9, 2012.  I felt that to return her to that unit would be signing her death warrant.  Today is April 16, 2013.  She is now a healthy 105 lbs. 

Since she moved back in with us, I have kept a diary of her progress.  I will be adding these diary entries as time permits.  I hope you enjoy!

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